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Stacey shares a smile with her mother Beryl while moving into her new home at the inclusive Chorus Apartments.<\/p><\/div>\n

Paddi and Beryl are mothers and friends whose daughters both lived at home for over 30 years and recently moved into their own apartments. This is one of the biggest transitions for parents; and Paddi and Beryl, just like any mom, wanted to make sure their daughters are safe, happy, make long lasting relationships and are part of the community. Finding inclusive housing was a paramount concern.<\/p>\n

Fortunately because of the vision of families, community partners,\u00a0Semiahmoo House Society<\/a>\u00a0and partnerships between the governments of Canada and B.C., their daughters are living independently in their own homes at\u00a0Chorus Apartments<\/a>. This inclusive and affordable rental housing complex was purpose built for people with low to moderate incomes and people with disabilities. Twenty of the 71 new units are homes for individuals with developmental disabilities.<\/p>\n

Now that Paddi and Beryl\u2019s daughters Michaela and Stacey are a month into living on their own we sat down with them to talk about what makes a home inclusive.<\/p>\n

Inclusive homes respect peoples\u2019 preferences<\/h2>\n

Paddi:<\/strong>\u00a0It all began 13 years ago. I was on the Board of Directors for Semiahmoo House Society and they had a vision of creating an inclusive housing option for our folks. So they gathered parents and their children and staff together to brainstorm ideas on how to make it happen. Our children were always involved in the planning; their wants and desires and needs were listened to and incorporated. That is what makes it truly inclusive \u2013 it was the voice of the people who were going to live there and their families that were first and foremost. They had to prepare their life plans, they identified their strengths and their weaknesses and where the support would be needed. They worked so hard and as they worked you could see more and more that this was a possibility, it could really happen.<\/p>\n

Beryl:<\/strong>\u00a0I\u2019ll never forget my very first meeting with Semiahmoo House. It was with the staff and parents. We were all there discussing our kids and at that time Paul Wheeler was the Executive Director and he was incredible. He spoke about his vision of an apartment building behind Semiahmoo House for our folks to live and be part of the community. When I heard him speak I thought, \u2018wow, what an inclusive approach.\u2019 I remember going home and telling my husband \u2013 \u2018this is where we need to be.\u2019<\/p>\n

Proximity to community resources and friends<\/h2>\n

Beryl:<\/strong>\u00a0The location is great. Across the street you have Safeway, London Drugs, restaurants and public transit. Stacey goes to Semiahmoo House every day to participate in the catering program and evening programs: movie night, game night and rec and leisure programs. They have friends and neighbours who can support them, they visit back and forth \u2013 it does my heart good to see them happy, having movie nights with each other and being successful together. Their friendships are stronger with the independence they are given. They feel safe and they are happy and you could never ask for anything more.<\/p>\n

Paddi:<\/strong>\u00a0Yes, the location is fantastic and Semiahmoo staff have access to the building and are like a family to them. They are amazing and they genuinely want these guys to succeed. It helps to know that they are well looked after, they make sure they are home at night and they keep an eye on things.<\/p>\n

Stress about letting go<\/h2>\n
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Stacey\u2019s best friend Alexa (left) also lives in Chorus Apartments, just down the hall.<\/p><\/div>\n

Paddi:<\/strong>\u00a0Before Michaela moved we were a little bit anxious but we knew we had to do this now as we are getting older, while my husband and I were both still able to make sure the right things were in place and that Michaela could live a life without us. So yes, we were a bit anxious but once she moved in we saw the support she was getting and that she didn\u2019t really need us anymore. She has all her friends around her, she\u2019s closer to work and she loves being independent. It\u2019s been an easier transition than I thought it would be, for all of us.<\/p>\n

Beryl:<\/strong>\u00a0Stacey and I are very close. We have had our ups and downs with her always wanting to be independent and I just couldn\u2019t let her have as much freedom as she wanted. But now, with her own apartment she is getting that freedom \u2013 she has the independence she wants with the safety that both her and I need. Growing up, Stacey loved hearing my stories about my first apartment and hanging out with my friends and she always wanted that for her. Here she is, living in her own apartment with her best friend Alexa next door and it\u2019s wonderful. She now has her own stories.<\/p>\n

Nothing is impossible<\/h2>\n

Beryl:<\/strong>\u00a0There is that old clich\u00e9 that nothing is impossible. When our guys grow up you have hopes and dreams for them just like any other family does for their children, and particularly that piece about moving out of the house. You are not sure if that can ever happen, and it has. Semiahmoo House has helped make that possible for so many families \u2013 they have made it possible for them to live independently, to be out there but with the support they need to succeed. I think that sometimes we are afraid and want to protect our children, which is natural, but I think given the right circumstance, like this inclusive housing project, it\u2019s possible.<\/p>\n

Paddi:<\/strong>\u00a0I agree, you have to believe it\u2019s possible and you have to let them do it, you have to let them break away and find themselves. Even though it\u2019s hard to let them go and give them independence you have to let them experience it. They gain so much from it \u2013 if you let them break away. Just knowing that Michaela is okay if anything happened to us tomorrow gives you so much relief; you don\u2019t worry as much anymore. That daily worry is gone.<\/p>\n

Click here to learn more about the Chorus Apartments<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

New CLBC inclusive housing resources<\/h2>\n

CLBC has created new resources to help individuals and families, housing developers, providers and planners understand what makes housing inclusive, and the benefits of inclusive housing for everyone.<\/p>\n

You can find the information on the\u00a0CLBC inclusive housing webpage here<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0, including a\u00a0downloadable inclusive housing handout<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0with information for housing developers, city officials, and other partners.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Paddi and Beryl are mothers and friends whose daughters both lived at home for over 30 years and recently moved into their own apartments. 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